D/s or some variant of it, has exploded on the net. Like most things via the net, this has been enormously beneficial for those who would wish to explore those urges and inklings, to meet and greet, and to be educated.
However, there has been a downside and that has been the weakening of protocols that existed in local D/s communities.
Those who take the culture seriously, and this is a subculture in every sociological sense of the word, replete with its own esoteric knowledge, practices, rituals of iniation and celebration..
honor these rituals and practices, seek to understand that the whys and wherefores exist to protect both the participants and the integrity of the culture itself.
One practice that has weakened in the online explosion is that of addressing the dominant of a known submissive if one wishes to communicate with said submissive.
This practice exists for the following reasons, the submissive is either owned or collared property..a statement of possession and/or protection.
The submissive is ( in a healthy and dynamic M/s or D/s relationship ) under the tutelage, mentorship or engaged in fullblown power exchange with their Dominant.
The Dominant hopefully has earned the respect and trust of their submissive/s that they have their best interests and growth as core values.
The submissive is not left to judge character alone nor make decisions in isolation.
Ownership states to the community and to the D/s couple..the Dominant is to
cherish and value the submission that has been offered, and the submissive is to adhere to the direction and service the Dominant.
When meeting online those that would claim to be either Dominant or submissive, one litmus test of their authenticity is this..do they respect this one initial aspect of protocol?
If they violate it with impunity or appear to regard it as archaic..they compromise their integrity.
Just a word to those online in the D/s community seeking ..whatever..protocol is a way to safeguard relationships and community boundaries..
Picture re, my Dominant,and collaborator in art, Lucifer Lazerus. Check out his very cool website at http://www.Luciferlazerus.com
I am happy to correspond with like minded individuals, but request that you approach him prior to this if you also lay claim to Dominant status.
That way there is so much less ruckus over the dinkies in the sandbox.